I am so grateful I had the opportunity to work with Alexandra! There are two separate, but inter-twined, aspects of her coaching that have her stand out as truly one of the best in this work. Her technical skills are impeccable. She has the insight to see and describe long-standing patterns of guilt and blame, shame and anger, and to name what underlies them.

Second, her emotional approach, her way of being while coaching, makes it so that the things she sees and describes land with kindness. Instead of feeling badly about needing to change it always felt like a wonderful opportunity. Coming from her, it seemed easy to change longstanding patterns, and I was excited to try something new (and have my partner do the same)!

In this book, Alexandra Stockwell shares a great perspective on long-term, committed relationship that turns conventional wisdom on its head. Packed with useful exercises, this book can help you wake up a ho hum relationship and have you fall in love all over again. With the communication and mindset shifts outlined in this book, you can create lasting change for your whole family. Written in a warm and conversational tone, Alexandra’s way of writing is accessible and vulnerable. I highly recommend this book! Her technical skills are impeccable. She has the insight to see and describe long-standing patterns of guilt and blame, shame and anger, and to name what underlies them. ​

This book is a gem! Whether you’ve been with your partner for one month or 50 years, I assure you that you will love this book. It is a quick read filled with so many profound ideas and tools that you will want to read it multiple times. It is a very practical guide to the path of greater peace, joy, and passion in your relationship. My partner and I have been using these principles for years in our relationship but we still found so many pearls of wisdom in this book that I now recommended this book to all my friends. Even if you are not in a relationship, get this book. You will learn so much about yourself, your needs, and your wants that you will be in a better place to find and create the relationship you want with your next partner.

Our relationship before working with Alexandra was a roller coaster of emotions, reactivity, and explosive arguments. We were both exhausted by the constant struggle and at our wit’s end of what to do. We both questioned our decision to get married and broke our engagement several times out of anger and frustration. We now are a happily married couple who has built a foundation for a life together. We have learned how to navigate our own emotional challenges and take better care of each other. Though we still have a lot of learning to do, we have come a long way to understand and respect each other even when we disagree or are hurt. Through working with Alexandra, we have been able to stay connected to our love for each other, see through the challenges to what personal growth needed to be done and calm the storms between us through new awareness and targeted tools.