We have been married for 21 years and our marriage has had its ups and downs. However, we were at a long down when we met Alexandra. Our emotional intimacy was non-existent. We were courteous roommates and our sexual intimacy had not existed for 9 months. We parent 2 children and that was the only common bond that we could communicate about.
After working with Alexandra, I learned so much about my husband. I learned that his lack of intimacy was not about me, and was more about his fears of me leaving him. Learning this was pivotal for me in shifting my perspective and my expectations of him.
We are now very close, we communicate so much better, we each other’s company and look forward to spending time together—in general, and more intimately!
- S. & J.
Alexandra is has a big loving and caring heart, but don't let that fool you... she combines years of experience, business acumen, and 'in your face' direct feedback that may not be easy to receive, but is exactly what you need to hear! Her advice and coaching has helped me overcome some limited beliefs I was holding onto and gave me a new perspective as a business owner to step into a new role that I love and feel worthy in. Thank you so much Alexandra!
- AJ Yager, Co-Founder and CMO Praxis Metrics
I am so grateful I had the opportunity to work with Alexandra! There are two separate, but intertwined, aspects of her coaching that have her stand out as truly one of the best in this work.
Her technical skills are impeccable. She has the insight to see and describe long-standing patterns of guilt and blame, shame and anger, and to name what underlies them.
Second, her emotional approach, her way of being, while coaching makes it so that the things she sees and describes land kindly and as an opportunity. Coming from her, it seems easy to change these patterns, and I'm excited to try out something new!
My partner and I came into this coaching with what felt to us like a very concrete, intractable dilemma. She wanted a baby yesterday, and was at an age where urgency was warranted. I felt neither financially ready for that nor that our relationship was in a place for it. To us, this all seemed very concrete, and like the problem was well defined and "over there." We were not making progress on our own.
Alexandra deftly untangled history and story from our dilemma - the impact of underlying stories (e.g., my doubt in my self-worth, my belief that I will only be loved based on what I produce rather than who I am, the way I made my partner responsible for my emotions). This transformed our "dilemma" into a shared focus of our relationship, something we were partnered on, instead of in opposition around.
In addition, these same insights and practices have been vital outside of my romantic partnership. I bring these skills into my work, my family relationships, and, perhaps most importantly, how I treat myself.
- Benjamin Emmert-Aronson, Ph.D.
The Aligned & Hot Marriage program called to me because it spoke to a continued issue that weighed heavily on me. My marriage was rock solid at its foundation but the physical passion we once shared for one another had softened. There always seemed to be some really good explanation for that, but I was tired of us honoring those excuses. I wanted it back!
Things between my husband and I weren’t falling apart or something. We were good! We make a wonderful team. We love and respect each other very much. But, I didn’t realize how much intimacy was missing from our marriage until things started to really shift! Through the video modules and workbook activities, we’ve found new ways of communicating that allow us more space both as a couple and as individuals. The freedom we have found to enjoy one another more deeply is wonderful! And Alexandra is absolutely right, when the intimacy ignites in your relationship...that passion shows up all on its own again.
I would recommend this program to anyone who knows their partnership has room for improvement, especially if you miss the fresh passion of when things were shiny + new.
Today I am thankful that while so many other marriages are crumbling under the seemingly insurmountable stress of a pandemic, my husband and I have found pathways to grow closer + stronger together. I don’t think I have ever felt so blissfully close to my hubby headed into a holiday season before!
- Marissa Ramirez
"Alexandra helped me have the courage to talk with my husband, and helped me to get more clear about what I want and have the courage to explore if it’s possible in my marriage. Her honesty and willingness to discuss sometimes difficult subjects, and the respectful, practical, and compelling way she addresses them, helped me look at my partnership more deeply, and with new eyes."
"Alexandra is a very rare breed. She has such a unique skill of being able to see right to the root of your ‘problems’ and bring out the excellence that lives in your heart. With her inner sight, I was able to reach into my issues, which were loaded with shame, guilt, hopelessness, judgement and self-doubt. While a good coach might have helped me get better, Alexandra is a great coach in that she empowered me to do the work myself and to get free in all the areas I was feeling stuck. Because of her ability to communicate her total love and approval for ALL OF ME, I felt deeply seen and effortlessly inspired to be my very, very best, most excellent self."
- Tania Sethi
Working with Alexandra has been such a blessing to me!
When I began speaking with Alexandra, I had been feeling stuck, and not really sure why. I felt unsure of myself and longed for clarity and for that spark of energy that others seemed to have.
After just 1 session, I began to feel the shift. And by the end of our few months together, I can actually say that my life turned around so fast, that it still amazes me. The insight, permission, and clarity that I received through my conversations with her have continued to work their magic in my life. I can see how muddled my mind has been and how I was living in fear and holding myself back.
- Jaquetta Jancewicz