The Most Common Question I Receive…

Men and women, both in straight and gay relationships, reach out to me regularly…

Typically, they know me personally, or they have read an article I’ve written, or they have listened to a podcast I have been a guest on, and what I share touches their heart and they reach out to connect with me.

Most commonly it’s a woman who reaches out, but often times it’s a man.

The person reaches out, and in their own way, he or she asks me whether there’s hope for them, whether there’s hope for their relationship to improve when it’s been the way it has been for awhile already.

Maybe she shares with me that they really love one another and he’s a wonderful father, but they haven’t made love in a really long time.  She can barely say it, but she wants him to look at her as a woman; she yearns to feel wanted.

Maybe he says his wife is so busy with work, kids and all kinds of other responsibilities. He doesn’t feel he has a right to ask for anything more from her when she’s already giving so much to so many.  And yet… he’s slowly dying inside, because he does want more and doesn’t know what to do to get it. By the time he’s reaching out to me, he’s started wondering if he even deserves it. Has he been a good enough man for his woman to prioritize their relationship, for his woman to make time for sensuality?

Maybe she reaches out when her wife starts coming home later, because work has become so important and they don’t connect as deeply as before.  She reaches out because, after all the attention they gave one another and their relationship when they got together, she now feels alone and isolated within their marriage.

I recognize the courage of every one who reaches out.

I hear the tenderness.

And I know, as I read the email and later hear the voice on the phone, that the most important role I have is to be an affirming, supportive listener as each person shares their pain with me. I also know our exchange may end up being an important step toward deep healing and the seed of much hope for the future.

  1. Is it possible to have emotional intimacy and sensual passion with a long term partner?

  2. Is it possible for a stale and dehydrated relationship to revive?

  3. Is it possible for all the love that is present but stuck, to flow with connection, erotic heat, companionship and delight?

The answer is a resounding YES. I know because I have experienced it in my own marriage, and I know because I have coached many couples to experience it for themselves.

If you want this kind of connection with the one you love… if you want to heal the wounds of the past and cultivate emotional connection, sensuality, erotic heat, and openhearted collaboration, if you yearn for that I have two things to tell you:

  1. I promise you it’s possible.

  2. Reach out to me.

If you are not experiencing this right now, it’s unlikely you will create it on your own. (If you could have, you would have.) So reach out and access the guidance that’s available.

For couples ready to dive deep in order to create the relationship they really want, I offer many options from a self-study online course to highly customized private coaching.

I look forward to serving you as you create an intimate, sensual, juicy, dynamic relationship.

Please reach out, or comment below, if you would like to learn more.

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