The first key to an intimate marriage is to cultivate curiosity. Early in relationships, it’s easy to feel curious about everything from scars, favorite foods, wild stories, and everything in between. As relationships mature, the curiosity fades and you get more comfortable. You already know how they’ll order their coffee or how they’ll answer a question before you even ask. That’s a beautiful phase when you can put your energy towards other things.
The problem comes when we become so comfortable and secure that we end up missing out on the growth that each other is going through.
If you’re in the middle of a conflict, if it’s intense, the most helpful thing you can do is just stop and ask a curious, open-ended question. If you’re oriented on being right, it creates disconnection. When you can cultivate curiosity, it builds collaboration, creativity, and connection.
If you are in a phase of disconnect in your relationship and/or having conflict, cultivate curiosity, ask open-ended questions and listen generously.
If you’re in a strong, solid, connected relationship, you can still cultivate curiosity and make your relationship even stronger.
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