Intimate Relationships Are The Spice Of Life

Do you ever worry that you don’t have answers for your intimacy problems?

Does discussing a lack of connection with your partner make your heart beat faster, or produce tightness in your chest akin to when you speak in front of a crowd? 

People are often nervous about meeting with a relationship and intimacy coach. They worry I will ask them intimate questions that they will either be embarrassed to answer, not know the answer to, or that focusing on the situation will somehow make it worse.

More than that, people are concerned I will judge them and focus on what’s wrong without honoring the good parts of their relationship.

This fear is particularly true for men, especially when he is with a woman who has been pointing out his flaws and incompetence to the point of him shutting down because it’s too much to bear.

Others are quite excited to speak with me because they are sure I will agree with them about the need for their partner to change.

Whether that sounds like you, or not, you came to this site because something is missing on a deeper level- it’s hard to put your finger on it but it feels bigger than arguments or a loss of sexual chemistry.

In short, you lack intimacy. 

What is Intimacy Coaching?

I have learned to perceive the essence of connection that exists between two people and my role is to guide them to see it too. It usually happens in our very first conversation, and leads to you feeling more hope, more connection, and more vibrancy than you have in a while. The essence of connection, once you feel it,  becomes the reference point that guides our work together.

Rather than seeing the same, familiar differences and disparities, looking through the lens of connection, the issues which used to cause real pain suddenly become a source of connection, individual reclamation, and tender, passionate communion.


I specialize in three different kinds of Intimacy Coaching.


  1. Communication: We converse. I ask questions and guide you to express yourself so your partner receives the meaning behind your words. You naturally learn to be more vulnerable and find that your partner opens to who you are as never before!

    With my results-oriented approach, I’ll give you clear, simple instructions on where to put your attention and how to communicate. This step alone will radically change your relationship.

    No matter where you are starting, there is an infinite amount of pleasure and connection available to you. 

  1. Sensuality: Sensuality begins with paying more attention to your inner world.

    What are your desires? What are your fears? Where do you want to put your attention?

    What does pleasure feel like in your body? If you caress your face as you wash it, how do you feel? What do you notice? Are there particular experiences you’re avoiding?

    The answers to these questions invariably reveal the areas you need to focus on to feel free and gloriously embodied

    High achieving individuals often move through the world quickly. You get to keep that superpower while I show you the glory of slowing down and having room to listen to your soul.

    There may be tears.

    There may be joy.

    The key to feeling whole and erotically gratified is being willing to feel the full spectrum of your emotions, not in an uncontained, irresponsible manner but in an authentic, calibrated, compassionate way. I’ll show you how.

    Where are you avoiding sensuality?

    It’s time to dive in… I’m here to guide you along the way, with the clarity and gentleness you deserve.

  2. Touch: When a couple is emotionally secure and willing to be vulnerable and honest with one another, it’s time to focus on physical and erotic intimacy. I will show you how to touch one another so your skin tingles and your orgasms roll through your body.

    This is an invitation to more lusciousness and presence than you’ve known before. 

Relationships are the ultimate vehicle for personal growth.

Whatever arises in your relationship is for you, for you to learn more about yourself, and to grow. As your intimacy coach, I will hold up a mirror so you see your growth opportunity too. While it can be a frustrating revelation at the moment, ultimately this awareness is the key to your freedom and the foundation for far more intimacy and pleasure.

At the beginning of every coaching relationship, I focus on your coaching goals, and every time we communicate, I have them in mind.

Before every session, you and your partner will separately fill out questionnaires. That lets me know what is up for each of you (sometimes it’s the same thing, and sometimes it isn’t). I then prepare the topics for our call, and together we co-create a transformational experience.

Intimacy Coaching is sometimes about understanding one another better. Sometimes it’s about paying attention to the sensations in your body. Other times it’s about tapping into the desires in your soul and learning to share them with your beloved.

Invariably, you will find yourself more thoroughly and profoundly transformed than you could have imagined.

I coach couples to create results they yearn for but haven’t known how to create on their own.  With my guidance, it becomes possible!

Intimacy Coaching is not therapy.

We only look at the past to the extent it blocks progress.

You will set your goals for our work together and then systematically accomplish them.

Above all, Intimacy Coaching is fun! 

It’s about accessing the joy in your connection and expanding it.

I promise you can have a deeply satisfying partnership!

Because having a fantastic relationship is a learnable skill.

Let’s get there together!

Discover what's really blocking emotional and sensual intimacy.

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About Dr. Alexandra

Alexandra Stockwell, MD, aka “The Intimacy Doctor,” is widely known for her ability to catalyze immediate and profound shifts in high achieving couples who want it all–genuine emotional connection, sensual passion, and erotic intimacy.

A physician coach and Intimate Marriage Expert, Alexandra is the best-selling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, as well as a wife of 28 years and a mother of 4. Couples who work with her discover the key to passion, fulfillment, intimacy, and success isn’t compromise–it’s being unwilling to compromise–because when both people feel free to be themselves, the relationship is juicy, erotically alive, and deeply nourishing.


Get the roadmap for the intimacy you desire by reading the first chapter of my book “Uncompromising Intimacy.”

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