I spent last weekend participating in a fantastic women’s conference in the heart of San Francisco.

At the conference I presented a workshop on Increasing Intimacy in and out of the Bedroom. The room was filled with interesting, striving women, most of them had never met one another before.  As it was time to begin the workshop there were people hanging back against the walls, and retreating into various cozy corners which were adjacent to the room in which I was speaking.  It felt ironic that they were all attracted to learn more about increasing intimacy in their lives, but were spread out in a rather amoebic manner.

I requested that they all come to the room and be physically present, and then began the workshop.

One of my main points as I set the stage for what we would cover was to share that Intimacy is a learnable skill.

So often people believe nourishing intimacy is the result of picking the right person, or growing up with minimal childhood wounds, or just getting lucky.  While all of those are potentially helpful, the reality is that intimacy is a learnable skill—your capacity to experience intimacy grows with intention and practice, with education followed by trial and error, and integrating your experiences.  With education, you can create the most exquisite emotional and sensual intimacy!

I then proceeded to set the stage and guide the workshop participants through a simple, and profound experience. In the experience I shared tools to create intimacy in their relationships and in their life.

The women who chose to participate in my workshop, were beautiful, open, and courageous enough to try something new. They went for it and fully participated.

When I ended my presentation, I saw a room of women who were glowing, with their hearts open and their souls at ease.  What really touched me the most occurred a few minutes later when  I saw most of the participants sitting with new friends in groups of two and three, in deep, connected, intimate conversations. They felt seen, heard, understood, and appreciated by one another—they were experiencing far more intimacy than when they arrived in the room.

I felt in awe of these women who had created real intimacy with one another in the hour we were together, through using tools that will serve them for the rest of their lives in their relationships with colleagues, children, step-children, parents, neighbors, and most significantly, with their romantic partners.

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I look forward to hearing what you yearn to experience. I would love to teach you how to increase intimacy in your relationship, so you experience it as a learnable skill, so you know what I mean when I say it’s a verb.