Welcome to Desires

Do you know what you want, or do you end up accepting what’s convenient for others?

Is something missing from your relationship, but you’re not really sure what it is?

Are you clear on your desires, but hesitate to tell your husband?

You're really good at making things happen at work and at home.

You’re amazing at taking care of everyone else’s needs (at least most of the time).
You are ambitious, and have the results to show for it.
You value family, professional achievement, and personal satisfaction.
You know how to make things happen and handle whatever is thrown at you.

When will it be your turn?

  • Do you know what everyone else needs but you’re not really sure what you need–and don’t know when you’ll be able to figure that out?
  • Do you have lots of desires, but feel shut down and ashamed about it?
  • Do you know what you want but feel uncomfortable asking for it,
or receiving it?

Look, I get it!

The first time someone asked me to write down my desires, I just stared at the paper and hoped no one would notice my page was blank.
I could‘ve written a grocery list, or what my kids needed for camp, or the most detailed description of my work projects…but a list of what I desire…I didn’t know where to begin!
I was so sick of feeling disappointed…yet I didn’t know what was missing.

Once I learned to dance with my desires

...life has never been the same!

Now my life is vibrant, full of joy, laughter,
playfulness, and delight.

It’s also full of new shoes, luxury travel, a steady supply of fresh flowers, and the most exquisite kisses… 

You are a woman and you deserve to enjoy your dreams and have what you want!

Desires

an online course for women

In Desires you will receive:

  • • 6 videos that will expand your mind, and make you smile
  • • a lifetime of getting what you want because it feels great to give it to you

video 1 "Tell Me What You Want”

video 2 The Importance Of Knowing Your Desires​

video 3 Why it Can Be Hard To Know What You Want​

video 4 Identify Your Desires

video 5 Asking For What You Want So It Feels Good To Give It To You

video 6 Bringing It Into The Bedroom

Hi, I'm Alexandra Stockwell, MD

I’m a Relationship and Intimacy Coach, known as “the Intimacy Doctor.” For over 25 years, I’ve shown men and women how to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life: from the daily grind of running a household, to intimate communication, and ecstatic experiences in the bedroom–all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!

I believe the key to passion, fulfillment, intimacy, and success isn’t compromise–it’s being unwilling to compromise–because when both people feel free to be themselves, and know how to love and be loved for exactly who they are, the relationship is juicy, nourishing, and deeply satisfying.

I’m the bestselling author of Uncompromising Intimacy, host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, and the creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
I have been featured in The New York Times, Huffington Post, Rolling Stone, Cosmopolitan, USAToday, Business Insider, InStyle, FOX News NYC, and many other publications.

Feedback about Desires

“The Desires course is wonderful. It was inspiring and I am really happy I found it.
Alexandra is amazing. I love her words, how she talks, her emotions and her energy.
The whole thing really resonated for me. The videos were so much fun, so informative, so empowering, and yes…I deserve what I desire!!!!”

- MonikaLucia Steiner, MD

“I didn’t know what my desires were, (and I hadn’t realized it). Through taking Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s Desires course, I became aware that I had created a persona based on what I thought I wanted, due to external influences.

 As a result of Desires, I discovered what I truly want. I had so many “aha” moments and have used what I learned in the course to completely transform my life! I love my relationship (because I was able to say what I wanted, and to my surprise, I learned that he wanted the same thing)! I trusted my desire to move across the country and am in love with my new home. As a result of what Alexandra teaches in Desires, I have learned to speak my truth, and as a result, my whole life is more passionate, authentic, and joyful.”

- Alice Bronstein, host of Beautiful People Podcast

“As a result of Alexandra’s guidance, and realizing that what I want matters, I’ve resolved to become the star of my own life! 

Alexandra’s teachings offer a wonderful perspective, always compelling and outside the box. She is original and every course of hers I take, really enriches my life in ways that are both obvious and also kind of intangible. I trust myself more and I know how to tell my husband when something is important to me (even if it’s inconvenient for him). With practice these conversations have become easier, and sometimes it’s really fun to tell him what I want! I am much happier now!”

- Zara, MD

To improve intimacy in your marriage, read the first chapter of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Alexandra Stockwell, MD.

To improve intimacy in your marriage, read the first chapter of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Alexandra Stockwell, MD.