You’ve been taught to compromise, deprioritizing your own needs and desires…but as so many others have found–it’s a sure way to diminish connection, dial down passion, and erode sexual chemistry in the bedroom.
You are not inadequate.
There’s nothing wrong with your partner.
It’s just that you’ve never learned the skills you need.
It’s not too late.
You’ve been taught a falsehood.
The only reason you are telling yourself those things is because you’ve been taught that the way to have a great marriage is to be good at compromise.
It’s not.
Compromise is a one-way ticket to unhappiness, dissatisfaction, disconnection, and infrequent and/or unsatisfying sex.
Despite being the most commonly-given relationship advice, it doesn’t work. When you compromise on honoring your needs and desires, speaking your truth, and downplaying yourself for the sake of the relationship, it actually erodes the connection between you.
When couples compromise, they both end up feeling unseen, taken for granted, disrespected, and not fully present in their relationship.
You are more likely to be on your phone, overeat, spend money, work out, complain to friends, feel burnt out and unappreciated attending to daily tasks and responsibilities, as well as sensually and sexually rejected, yearning for aliveness and feel dehydrated or frustrated instead.
Compromising for the sake of your relationship is the very behavior that breeds resentment, numbness, disconnection, and random outbursts when you need to let off steam.
On the outside everything looks great but inside, it’s lonely and complicated.
You’re smart, educated, and motivated to do well in your life. You know how to succeed in professional contexts so it’s really frustrating that it’s not happening in your marriage too.
Of course you want a fun, easy, affectionate relationship with emotional nourishment along with sensual connection and erotic gratification.
It’s time to stop compromising and develop the skillset that allows you to be fully self-expressed while also connecting deeply, with nuance and power. I call this Uncompromising Intimacy.
– lasting emotional, sensual, and erotic intimacy
– a relationship that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside
– trust you can say whatever you need to and it will go well
– confidence you can weather any storm and quickly reconnect
– fun and ease with excellent communication and sexual chemistry
Because the books, podcasts, therapists, counselors, and coaches, tend to operate from the wrong paradigm. They can be very useful for individual growth but not so helpful in growing the connection between two people.
Plus the key is not to focus on communication scripts, new sexual positions, or any other behavioral strategy–the key is to develop a felt sense of connection both within yourself and with your partner.
Typical problem-solving skills don’t work here–but you already know that.
This is not something you can figure out on your own, because by definition you can’t see your own blind spots.
Your relationship is toxic and volatile.
The Aligned & Hot Marriage program includes 8 modules–each one
features one of the foundational skills in the Uncompromising Intimacy.
Each module contains two videos and 1-2 activities that help you practice and integrate the lessons learned.
Without even realizing it you have adopted false ideas and common misconceptions about intimacy and how to cultivate it. Through this eye-opening course you’ll identify the well-meaning, dysfunctional behaviors you’ve adopted, that create barriers to intimacy–every single day. Reinvent intimacy from the inside out through nurturing emotional intimacy, sensual intimacy, and erotic intimacy, in order to access the passion you yearn for.
Most attachment style teaching provides understanding without offering solutions for everyday interactions and increasing passion in the bedroom. In this much-loved webinar, Alexandra details the different attachment styles and how to navigate them to make your relationship better. She provides real-time solutions depending on your attachment style and the challenges it creates, as well as ways of being successful based on your partner’s attachment style and the challenges it creates.
What if shifting one simple thing is exactly what you need to start enjoying the love and satisfaction you once had in your relationship–this one thing changed everything and has been the cornerstone of our juicy intimacy for 27 years and counting…
In this ten minute audio course, you will learn the secret and be inspired to implement it in your own relationship. When you do, you are sure to create immediate, positive changes.
The Aligned & Hot Marriage program is designed for couples like you, with busy, full lives, and many personal and professional responsibilities. As you go through the program, you can pace yourself according to your availability.
However, if you want to deepen your connection and reignite the spark in your marriage, it takes time, attention, and a willingness to prioritize your relationship in order to get the results you want. Couples usually find it takes about 30-45 minutes per week to watch the videos and do the activities in each module. Some couples get into student mode and schedule regular times to learn. Other couples make the Aligned & Hot Marriage program an at-home date night activity. Most importantly, by virtue of it being an independent study program, you can set it up however it works best for you.
Once you enroll, you’ll have lifetime access.
Absolutely! The Aligned & Hot Marriage program provides the structure and guidance you’re looking for to increase the intimacy in your relationship. It’s a fun, easy-to-follow curriculum that will facilitate profound transformations for anyone who implements the lessons.
Many couples have had this question before enrolling, and have been very pleasantly surprised with the enhanced intimacy and connection that naturally happens as a result of participating in the program.
As you implement what you learn in the program, your relationship will evolve in wonderful ways. This means, while it’s most beneficial to work through each module together, you will still get a great deal of benefit doing the program on your own.
Also, there are a lot of options in this situation. Some people watch the videos on their own, and their partners just join in for the activities. Others engage with the material and seamlessly integrate the lessons into their relationship, without ever telling their partner about the program. The point is, you can make lasting improvements whether your partner joins you or not.
Yes, definitely. This program provides step-by-step, sequential instruction on how to positively contribute to your marriage–while getting your own needs met. It takes what seems mysterious and makes it actionable.Without ambiguity or inference, you’ll learn how to be present with your wife in ways that gratify you both–intellectually, emotionally, and physically. It really isn’t as complicated as you’ve been led to believe.
It certainly will, but not how you think. Your sex life will flourish when you put your attention on deepening your emotional connection with your wife. The Aligned & Hot Marriage program will show you how to do so and, for most couples, that is all it takes for sensual intimacy to flourish.
I am not formulaic in my approach so the short answer is no, those philosophies are not part of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
Uncompromising Intimacy is all about becoming more of who you are, not someone you aren’t. So if your personality is to be soft and surrendered but you’ve learned to be tough and do everything on your own, then becoming more aligned and authentic will involve some softening. But if you are a kickass, powerful woman, then that’s who your husband fell in love with and that’s the woman who gets to show up more (not less).
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