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Having a
relationship is a
learnable skill

Having a nourishing juicy fantastic connected passionate
relationship is a
learnable skill


You’ve been taught to compromise, deprioritizing your own needs and desires…but as so many others have found–it’s a sure way to diminish connection, dial down passion, and erode sexual chemistry in the bedroom.

Learn to be uncompromising in your relationship.

Stop withholding your own needs and desires, and experience the delight of authentic self-expression and open-hearted intimacy.

You are not inadequate.

There’s nothing wrong with your partner. 

It’s just that you’ve never learned the skills you need.

It’s not too late. 

You can change this today.

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Do you tell yourself:

“We need more time together for our relationship to thrive.”
“Hopefully when the kids are older we’ll be happy as a couple again.”
“If I just had a communication script to follow…”
“If only my spouse were a better lover.”
“What’s wrong with me and why is this so hard?”
“If I can just find a way to put up with xyz (insert partner’s annoying way of communicating, touching you, not paying attention to you, or other problematic behavior), then things will be fine.”

You’ve been taught a falsehood.

The only reason you are telling yourself those things is because you’ve been taught that the way to have a great marriage is to be good at compromise.

It’s not.

Compromise is a one-way ticket to unhappiness, dissatisfaction, disconnection, and infrequent and/or unsatisfying sex.

Despite being the most commonly-given relationship advice, it doesn’t work. When you compromise on honoring your needs and desires, speaking your truth, and downplaying yourself for the sake of the relationship, it actually erodes the connection between you.

Consider this...

When couples compromise, they both end up feeling unseen, taken for granted, disrespected, and not fully present in their relationship.

You are more likely to be on your phone, overeat, spend money, work out, complain to friends, feel burnt out and unappreciated attending to daily tasks and responsibilities, as well as sensually and sexually rejected, yearning for aliveness and feel dehydrated or frustrated instead.

Compromising for the sake of your relationship is the very behavior that breeds resentment, numbness, disconnection, and random outbursts when you need to let off steam.

On the outside everything looks great but inside, it’s lonely and complicated.

It doesn’t need to be that way

You’re smart, educated, and motivated to do well in your life. You know how to succeed in professional contexts so it’s really frustrating that it’s not happening in your marriage too.

Of course you want a fun, easy, affectionate relationship with emotional nourishment along with sensual connection and erotic gratification.

  • You don’t have to be stuck walking on eggshells or tolerating random communication landmines. 
  • You don’t have to hold back your authentic desires fearing they may be perceived as “too much.”
  • You don’t have to keep wondering whether you can have the relationship you really want.
  • There’s no reason to continue feeling rejected, resentful, or unable to connect because you don’t know how to do it differently.

It’s time to stop compromising and develop the skillset that allows you to be fully self-expressed while also connecting deeply, with nuance and power. I call this Uncompromising Intimacy.


provides a proven roadmap to create:

– lasting emotional, sensual, and erotic intimacy
– a relationship that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside
– trust you can say whatever you need to and it will go well
– confidence you can weather any storm and quickly reconnect
– fun and ease with excellent communication and sexual chemistry

The concept is simple, so why is this rare?

Because the books, podcasts, therapists, counselors, and coaches, tend to operate from the wrong paradigm. They can be very useful for individual growth but not so helpful in growing the connection between two people.

Plus the key is not to focus on communication scripts, new sexual positions, or any other behavioral strategy–the key is to develop a felt sense of connection both within yourself and with your partner.

Typical problem-solving skills don’t work here–but you already know that.

This is not something you can figure out on your own, because by definition you can’t see your own blind spots.

Why Uncompromising Intimacy Works:

Instead of needing to change who you are or act in a particular way, with the Uncompromising Intimacy methodology you will become more of who you already are. You will learn to use your intelligence and professional accomplishment to be more gratified and show up in your marriage more effectively. Taking clear, sequential steps you’ll learn to speak from the heart, listen with presence, experience the power of vulnerability, and enjoy the way doing so stokes the fire between you, creating more passion than ever before. The Aligned & Hot Marriage program is THE place to learn my cutting edge methodology of Uncompromising Intimacy. What took me decades to develop is available to you in 8 simple modules, and you’ll get results as soon as you begin! Many graduates refer to the Aligned & Hot Marriage program as the marriage manual they are glad to finally have.

In the Aligned & Hot Marriage Program

you will learn to:

  • Tap into playfulness with your partner, and lighten up the heaviness, so your relationship feels fun and easy again
  • Notice where you withhold and compromise and learn to be fully expressed instead– even on the topics you tend to dial down the truth of who you are
  • Move towards one another and expand your connection, even when you disagree
  • Speak so your partner listens, and you feel understood, without the heartache of feeling taken for granted
  • Distinguish between brutal honesty and vulnerable honesty, in order to feel closeness without unnecessarily hurting one another 
  • Overcome frustrating patterns so you enjoy being together without feeling alone
  • Enjoy the personal power that arises with a win-win approach, shedding any tendency towards domination or hierarchy
  • Build a lasting foundation that allows you to feel confident you’ll navigate whatever life brings–together–without unwelcome disconnection and shutting down
  • Make transitions smoothly so you limit the time you’re out of sync, without the need for lots of processing
  • Uplevel the culture of your marriage and fall in love all over again, without the risk of losing the spark

Any of these sound familiar?

  • You and your partner want to learn how to have a fantastic relationship.
  • Your communication is good and you want it to be better.
  • Your marriage is good and solid and you want to reignite the spark.
  • You’ve never consciously focused on your marriage and are excited to do so.
  • You’ve done lots of therapy and you yearn for proactive guidance and clear progress.
  • You and your partner have been married for a few decades and want to deepen your connection.
  • You and your partner are engaged or newly married and committed to setting yourselves up to win.
  • You and your partner have been stretched thin by kids/career/other commitments and want to find your way back to one another.
  • You’re both committed to your own personal growth as well as the growth of your marriage

This program isn't right for you if:

  • You believe the most effective way to improve your relationship is for your partner to change.
  • Your relationship is toxic and volatile.

  • You are on the verge of divorce and this is your last ditch effort.

The Details

The Aligned & Hot Marriage program includes 8 modules–each one
features one of the foundational skills in the Uncompromising Intimacy.
Each module contains two videos and 1-2 activities that help you practice and integrate the lessons learned.

Once you enroll, your partner will be invited to enroll without an additional charge.

This is an independent study program you can work through at your own pace. You will have lifetime access to the curriculum.



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Without even realizing it you have adopted false ideas and common misconceptions about intimacy and how to cultivate it. Through this eye-opening course you’ll identify the well-meaning, dysfunctional behaviors you’ve adopted, that create barriers to intimacy–every single day. Reinvent intimacy from the inside out through nurturing emotional intimacy, sensual intimacy, and erotic intimacy, in order to access the passion you yearn for.

Using Attachment Styles to Create More Connection
in your Relationship

Most attachment style teaching provides understanding without offering solutions for everyday interactions and increasing passion in the bedroom. In this much-loved webinar, Alexandra details the different attachment styles and how to navigate them to make your relationship better. She provides real-time solutions depending on your attachment style and the challenges it creates, as well as ways of being successful based on your partner’s attachment style and the challenges it creates.

The Surprising Secret to Having a Fantastic Relationship

What if shifting one simple thing is exactly what you need to start enjoying the love and satisfaction you once had in your relationship–this one thing changed everything and has been the cornerstone of our juicy intimacy for 27 years and counting…
In this ten minute audio course, you will learn the secret and be inspired to implement it in your own relationship. When you do, you are sure to create immediate, positive changes.


The Aligned & Hot Marriage program is designed for couples like you, with busy, full lives, and many personal and professional responsibilities. As you go through the program, you can pace yourself according to your availability.

However, if you want to deepen your connection and reignite the spark in your marriage, it takes time, attention, and a willingness to prioritize your relationship in order to get the results you want. Couples usually find it takes about 30-45 minutes per week to watch the videos and do the activities in each module. Some couples get into student mode and schedule regular times to learn. Other couples make the Aligned & Hot Marriage program an at-home date night activity. Most importantly, by virtue of it being an independent study program, you can set it up however it works best for you.

Once you enroll, you’ll have lifetime access.

Absolutely! The Aligned & Hot Marriage program provides the structure and guidance you’re looking for to increase the intimacy in your relationship. It’s a fun, easy-to-follow curriculum that will facilitate profound transformations for anyone who implements the lessons.

Many couples have had this question before enrolling, and have been very pleasantly surprised with the enhanced intimacy and connection that naturally happens as a result of participating in the program.

As you implement what you learn in the program, your relationship will evolve in wonderful ways. This means, while it’s most beneficial to work through each module together, you will still get a great deal of benefit doing the program on your own.

Also, there are a lot of options in this situation. Some people watch the videos on their own, and their partners just join in for the activities. Others engage with the material and seamlessly integrate the lessons into their relationship, without ever telling their partner about the program. The point is, you can make lasting improvements whether your partner joins you or not.

Yes, definitely. This program provides step-by-step, sequential instruction on how to positively contribute to your marriage–while getting your own needs met. It takes what seems mysterious and makes it actionable.Without ambiguity or inference, you’ll learn how to be present with your wife in ways that gratify you both–intellectually, emotionally, and physically. It really isn’t as complicated as you’ve been led to believe.

It certainly will, but not how you think. Your sex life will flourish when you put your attention on deepening your emotional connection with your wife. The Aligned & Hot Marriage program will show you how to do so and, for most couples, that is all it takes for sensual intimacy to flourish.

I am not formulaic in my approach so the short answer is no, those philosophies are not part of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.

Uncompromising Intimacy is all about becoming more of who you are, not someone you aren’t. So if your personality is to be soft and surrendered but you’ve learned to be tough and do everything on your own, then becoming more aligned and authentic will involve some softening. But if you are a kickass, powerful woman, then that’s who your husband fell in love with and that’s the woman who gets to show up more (not less).

“We had a great relationship before, and now it’s fantastic.”

I have increased my confidence, feel better about myself AND my relationship is so much better.”

Marie-Elizabeth Mali, Relationship Coach

Yvette Racines and her husband Kevin enrolled in the Aligned and Hot Marriage program in Feb 2023.

She describes her experience in the program on episode 130 of The Intimate Marriage Podcast:

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