Hello, I'm Alexandra Stockwell, MD
And I am so glad you are here.
I know it takes courage to work on your relationship — ESPECIALLY WHEN EVERYTHING LOOKS GOOD FROM THE OUTSIDE.
You and your spouse love one another. You have a wonderful family, beautiful children, meaningful work. You make sure that everyone is taken care of. To others—it looks like you have it all. But underneath...you yearn to be nourished, to have YOUR needs met. And you don’t know how to make it happen.
A part of you is dying without the love, attention, nourishment, and joy that comes from emotional connection and a juicy sex life with the one you love. Without it, you’re tired, worn out, and resentments have begun to grow. You don’t know how much longer you will be able to give to others unless you figure out how to nourish yourself and be fed by your marriage.
I will give you the step-by-step instructions for you and your spouse to heal resentment and co-create an open-hearted, nourishing, sexy relationship. You will confidently move past the stranglehold of old patterns and learn to create new ones based in honesty, vulnerability, and trust. In short, you will learn to feel joy coursing through your body and soul, lit up by who you are and the marriage you have. You know it’s possible so now it’s time to learn how.
I know how important it is. I have been married for 22 years. My husband and I have four children, meaningful careers, and we also have a passionate love life and nourishing emotional connection. We can’t wait to see each other at the end of each day—after the children are in bed we light up at the opportunity to connect, whether it’s sharing the ups and downs of our days, or getting into bed to explore one another’s bodies.
But, believe me, it wasn’t always that way.
I met my husband when we were both in medical school. We started dating, sat next to each other in every class and often passed notes like flirtatious middle schoolers! We worked hard to succeed in medical school and residency. We didn’t celebrate my birthday on time for the first six years we were together because we always had a major test the day of or the day after. We learned to prioritize our medical work, and our beloved children. Time passed, we had two more children, more personal and professional responsibilities accrued.
Don’t get me wrong. We were aligned in our parenting and other priorities, and we loved one another very much. But, in each of us there was a growing hollowness. Neither of us admitted it to ourselves for a really long time. It took even longer to admit it to one another.
But, once we did admit it, we also accessed the possibility of changing it.
We worked with various therapists and coaches, we read books, we just plain spent time together—listening and getting to know one another all over again.
And, like watering a chia pet, the dormant parts of our relationship came to life! We now have a passionate sex life and truly are one another’s best friends. Our conversations used to be mostly logistical and focused on our children’s needs—now we share our intimate secrets and do the work to use every communication, on any topic, to bring us closer. Honestly, it’s not really work anymore—it’s play!
Our relationship has transformed, and so have we! Even our children’s lives changed. They became happier, more at ease, and they laugh more often. Our whole family blossomed! What changed for us in our private life literally had an immediate positive effect on every area of our family life and professional lives.
I want this level of passion and joy FOR YOU! I want both of you to be emotionally and sexually nourished. I want both of you to LOVE YOUR LIVES. And I want your children to grow up imprinted with joy and connection.
A little more about me:
I am a Physician turned Relationship Coach. After practicing Family Medicine for seven years and helping families to heal their bodies and their relationships, I studied the science and the art of emotional and sensual connection. Most of the trainings I found were for singles and younger couples disinterested in marriage. Wanting more joy and more pleasure in my own marriage, I took what was offered and learned to apply it in a committed marriage. After creating joy in daily life, emotional connection, and extremely satisfying sensual intimacy with my husband, I use the best of what I learned to help others create the joy, freedom, and connection they want. For 20 years I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of married life--from the daily grind of running a household, all the way into the bedroom!
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