Choose Intimacy
Relationship and Intimacy Coaching
for educated, successful couples who want more joy, connection, and sensual passion.
Choose Intimacy
Relationship and Intimacy Coaching for educated, successful couples who want more joy, connection, and sensual passion.
Relationship and Intimacy
Coach, creating the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented
MARRIAGE
Relationship and Intimacy
Coach, creating the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented
MARRIAGE
Featured In...
Intimacy isn't something that just happens—you have to choose it
Most couples who feel stuck in their relationship don’t lack love.
They lack understanding, and tools, to create ongoing, nourishing connection.
Choose Intimacy is the framework at the core of Alexandra’s approach to relationships. It begins with noticing what’s happening inside of you (mentally, emotionally, and physically), and includes being intentional about cultivating connection in everyday interactions with your partner.
Doing so changes the texture of ordinary moments: coming home at the end of the day, reconnecting after the kids are in bed, navigating arguments without losing your sense of connection.
When a couple learns to do this consistently, their relationship moves from something that functions well to something that feels dynamic, expansive, and alive.
Your relationship can feel as good as the rest of your life, or better!
Alexandra Stockwell, MD works with couples who love one another, have built a good life together, and now they are ready to learn the skills to deepen their relationship.
You are competent, committed, and genuinely care about your relationship. And still, something is missing…
The skills that make you effective everywhere else have not translated to your marriage–the connection between you has gradually become more functional and less enlivening. That gap is not your fault. It’s not your spouse’s fault. It’s a skills gap and, fortunately, the skills are learnable.
Your relationship can feel as good as the rest of your life, or better!
Alexandra Stockwell, MD works with couples who love one another, have built a good life together, and now they are ready to learn the skills to deepen their relationship.
You are competent, committed, and genuinely care about your relationship. And still, something is missing…
The skills that make you effective everywhere else have not translated to your marriage–the connection between you has gradually become more functional and less enlivening. That gap is not your fault. It’s not your spouse’s fault. It’s a skills gap and, fortunately, the skills are learnable.
Uncompromising Intimacy
By Alexandra Stockwell, MD
A practical, perspective-shifting guide for couples who want to go beyond a functional companionship. In this book, Alexandra describes how the key to a connected, passionate partnership is not compromise but the willingness to be fully yourself, and to genuinely welcome the same from your partner.
Packed with tools and stories of real-world application, it is a place to start working on, or deepen, your relationship.
What is Intimacy Coaching?
It’s less about focusing on what is broken and more about building what has not yet existed in your relationship.
Intimacy coaching will help you develop specific skills required for deeper connection: learning to recognize and articulate what you are feeling, understanding how to share that experience in a way that creates closeness rather than distance, and building the awareness to make intentional choices during moments that usually pass by when you’re focused on other things. This is not therapy, and it does not require a crisis to begin. It requires two people who want to grow and are willing to learn how to choose intimacy.
“We are grateful for Alexandra, who helped us grow both individually and as a couple. She has a way of saying what needs to be said so that it conveys care, empathy and respect. She has given us invaluable tools that consistently move our relationship forward in a connected way. As a result, our relationship is more harmonious on every level and we are enthusiastic about our future.”
-Dr. Allison, Anesthesiologist
“Before working with Alexandra, Jeff and I were operating like courteous roommates. Our emotional and sexual intimacy was non-existent. As a result of working with Alexandra, we’ve gotten back to truly enjoying one another’s company. In fact, despite 19 years of marriage, our relationship feels so fresh and alive that we decided to recommit and get married all over again!”
– Dr. Susana Acevedo, Pediatrician
“Alexandra is a one of a kind expert at navigating you through the tough spots back to connection. I always feel safe, seen, and supported by Alexandra. Working with her has been so helpful for our relationship.”
-Michele Wellington, CEO of Women Can Heal
“We sought out Alexandra’s guidance during a time we were having challenges, and our relationship felt transactional. She helped us understand one another’s perspectives and gave us tools to communicate more successfully and feel more connected.
The coaching experience was very insightful and calming, and we loved having an objective person point out dynamics we couldn't see ourselves.”
-Dr. Ann Tsung, NASA Flight Surgeon, Critical Care/Emergency Medicine physician, peak performance/productivity coach The coaching experience was very insightful and calming, and we loved having an objective person point out dynamics we couldn't see ourselves.”
Your Relationship Matters
I’ve spent the last 2 decades guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life. As a Physician and an Intimate Marriage Expert, I have applied these same principles to my own marriage of over 30 years.
In addition, I’ve coached hundreds of clients, teaching them how to experience aliveness and joy, in everything from the daily grind of running a household, to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom.
FAQs
Relationship and intimacy coaching is for you when you want to learn new skills in order to deepen your connection with your spouse and experience more emotional, sensual, and/or erotic intimacy.
With educated, high achieving professionals, this is a sophisticated, nuanced process involving bringing to light the underlying dynamic between you and your spouse, and transforming it through precise, artful guidance that respects the unique circumstances of your marriage. The result is that you enjoy one another more, both in and out of the bedroom.
Therapists often focus on what has happened in the past as a way to improve the present. You discuss how and when your feelings were hurt in order to understand one another better.
In contrast, relationship and intimacy coaching provides a solution oriented approach so you feel seen and heard, confidently deepen connection, and rekindle passion. This results in feeling cherished, respected, and successful in your marriage.
Couples are often surprised to experience notable improvement after just one session. To completely uplevel the culture of your marriage usually takes 3-6 months, and sometimes longer, depending on the quality of your relationship when you start.
The main criteria is a willingness to learn and a commitment to take action. If you bring those qualities, and Dr. Alexandra accepts you as clients, it will work for you–without exception.
There are many options, depending on the time, energy, and finances you invest to create the relationship you want.
The Intimate Marriage Podcast is a free weekly resource providing lots of valuable content.
Uncompromising Intimacy is Dr. Alexandra’s bestselling book on how to rekindle the emotional connection in your relationship (which paves the way for better sex).
The Aligned & Hot Marriage program is a highly effective, transformational, independent study program which will teach you the skills you need to enjoy a juicy, nourishing, intimate, passionate marriage. $399.
Private Relationship and Intimacy Coaching is for educated, high achieving couples who want to experience more intimacy and passion. They know how to problem solve and make things happen in other areas of their lives and want to develop the same competency in addressing issues and challenges in their marriage. Private coaching always begins with an in-depth Initial Consultation, involving an investment of $1000. Ongoing coaching for highly motivated couples is a 5 figure investment resulting in the dismantling of your old patterns and creating new ways of relating that feel authentic, exciting, and singularly suited to both individual’s needs and desires. In the process a joy-filled, passionate legacy is created with both immediate and long term impact for the whole family.
Intimacy coaches assist their clients in addressing attachment concerns, developing skills for openness and vulnerability, and improving their emotional sensitivity. These coaches also guide their clients in increasing their comfort with physical intimacy, including personal self-touch and physical interactions with others.
Ready to begin?
If you and your partner are committed to doing the work and learning to grow together, this is where the conversation starts.
