Create the relationship you really want
Working with Alexandra
Join a community of incredible couples creating amazing relationships. Learn to communicate with vulnerability and joy, honoring yourself and your partner. Have more fun, more joy, and better sex.
Awakened Nurturing is for individuals who have already accomplished a lot in their lives. It’s time to change the game by learning to love yourself. Through genuine self-acceptance comes joy, intimacy, clarity of purpose, and lots of success.
Private Couples Coaching
Transform your marriage into a hot, juicy, soul-nourishing relationship. For committed couples who yearn for more emotional connection and better sex, who dream of a deep love plus tons of chemistry, who are willing to do what it takes to be vulnerable and unapologetically authentic.
Some of the outcomes that clients have gotten from working with me:
You experience unconditional love and acceptance.
Know your partner has your back no matter how you mess up
or how well you succeed.
Choose to reveal and be vulnerable with your partner.
Be unapologetically yourself.
Be honest about your emotions.
Have more sexual energy flowing in your marriage, and feel all of the joy
that brings to every aspect of your life.
See how a lack of vulnerability used to stifle your passion and learn how to
share your joy and your happiness, as well as your disappointment and anger, and have all of them lead to more closeness and connection.
Deeply relax from knowing someone believes in you.
Have a partner who listens so well that they know what you will say next, while they are also often surprised because they notice you’re growing and becoming.
Make significantly more money.
Your children are happier.
The emotional tone of your home feels safe and loving, and your whole family thrives.
You participate in the world with an abundance of vitality.
You are less offended by people’s comments and behaviors.
You have more clarity about what you want.
You are noticeably more willing to take personal and professional risks.
You are confident.
A heart overflowing with gratitude has no room
for resentment, fear or anger.
~ Marla Mattenson
What Clients Have to Say
My life is completely different after working with you. With your guidance I have looked into my soul and gotten to know myself, and learned how to let others do so too. You gave me permission to leave the co-dependent relationships I had and showed me how to transform the relationships I chose to keep, one by one in a strong, elegant, and confident way.
With each new challenge, you adjusted me toward believing in myself and that paved the
way for real and lasting change.
You helped me accept my own anger—I had been using it to protect myself with the people closest to me. Once I accepted it, I was able to let it go, and, for the first time, I envisioned
a safe life for me without resentment. Whereas I used to be jealous and insecure, now I get to be the most important person in his life and him in mine. Oh, and I also have hot,
Alexandra is a deeply intuitive, present, kind, and brilliantly insightful coach. When I have a session with her I feel respected, seen, challenged, and held. I never feel that she has a limiting agenda for me, but rather I feel expanded by a multiverse of nuanced possibilities. She sees me as a full human capable of feeling more, being more, receiving more, and embodying more. I never feel like a broken thing that she is judging and trying to codependently fix. Rather, I feel that she is on my side fully perceiving me in my spot. She is extremely fluid and meets difficult emotions with presence and grace. There is no power imbalance, rather it feels like two souls in two bodies exploring, adjusting, and participating in the meaningful work of being alive. Often, we laugh. Since working with her, I feel I am more transparent in my communication, can experience more pleasure, and can more easily access parts of myself that had heretofore seemed locked-off from me. I feel more self-accepting, more loving, and more here. I am profoundly grateful.
Alexandra’s presence exudes safety, approval, and gentle wisdom. Whenever we got on the phone to do a coaching session, I would talk and go on about something, and she would catch the subtlest details of what was happening in the undercurrent of my being, and thus our sessions would start from that place. From the undercurrent. She’s very intuitive and weaves in her diverse knowledge and life experience as a woman, mom, wife, healer/physician, and human being. To this day, after we concluded our sessions, I still use tools she suggested to me and am grateful to her for helping me move into this next stage of my life.
Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky
but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love.
~ Brene Brown
Hello, I'm Alexandra Stockwell
And I am so glad you are here.
I know it takes courage to work on your relationship—ESPECIALLY WHEN EVERYTHING LOOKS GOOD FROM THE OUTSIDE.
You and your spouse love one another. You have a wonderful family, beautiful children, meaningful work. You make sure that everyone is taken care of. To others—it looks like you have it all. But underneath...you yearn to be nourished, to have YOUR needs met. And you don’t know how to make it happen.
A part of you is dying without the love, attention, nourishment, and joy that comes from emotional connection and a juicy sex life with the one you love. Without it, you’re tired, worn out, and resentments have begun to grow. You don’t know how much longer you will be able to give to others unless you figure out how to nourish yourself and be fed by your marriage.
I will give you the step-by-step instructions for you and your spouse to heal resentment and co-create an open-hearted, nourishing, sexy relationship. You will confidently move past the stranglehold of old patterns and learn to create new ones based in honesty, vulnerability, and trust. In short, you will learn to feel joy coursing through your body and soul, lit up by who you are and the marriage you have. You know it’s possible so now it’s time to learn how
I know how important it is. I have been married for 22 years. My husband and I have four children, meaningful careers, and we also have a passionate love life and nourishing emotional connection. We can’t wait to see each other at the end of each day—after the children are in bed we light up at the opportunity to connect, whether it’s sharing the ups and downs of our days, or getting into bed to explore one another’s bodies.
But, believe me, it wasn’t always that way.
I met my husband when we were both in medical school. We started dating, sat next to each other in every class and often passed notes like flirtatious middle schoolers! We worked hard to succeed in medical school and residency. We didn’t celebrate my birthday on time for the first six years we were together because we always had a major test the day of or the day after. We learned to prioritize our medical work, and our beloved children. Time passed, we had two more children, more personal and professional responsibilities accrued.
Don’t get me wrong. We were aligned in our parenting and other priorities, and we loved one another very much. But, in each of us there was a growing hollowness. Neither of us admitted it to ourselves for a really long time. It took even longer to admit it to one another.
But, once we did admit it, we also accessed the possibility of changing it.
We worked with various therapists and coaches, we read books, we just plain spent time together—listening and getting to know one another all over again.
And, like watering a chia pet, the dormant parts of our relationship came to life! We now have a passionate sex life and truly are one another’s best friends. Our conversations used to be mostly logistical and focused on our children’s needs—now we share our intimate secrets and do the work to use every communication, on any topic, to bring us closer. Honestly, it’s not really work anymore—it’s play!
Our relationship has transformed, and so have we! Even our children’s lives changed. They became happier, more at ease, and they laugh more often. Our whole family blossomed! What changed for us in our private life literally had an immediate positive effect on every area of our family life and professional lives.
I want this level of passion and joy FOR YOU! I want both of you to be emotionally and sexually nourished. I want both of you to LOVE YOUR LIVES. And I want your children to grow up imprinted with joy and connection.
A little more about me:
I am a physician turned relationship coach who teaches married couples how to create the emotional and sensual intimacy they crave. Wanting more pleasure in my own marriage, most of the support I found was designed for younger couples or those disinterested in marriage. I applied the best of what I learned, creating intimacy with my husband which continues to grow. Shortly after others started looking to me for guidance. For 20 years, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of married life--from the daily grind of running a household, all the way into the bedroom! I train other coaches to do the same. Click here to learn more.
CONTACT ME today and let's talk about how you can have a relationship you love.
Every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay. ~ John Gottman
More Praise for Alexandra
My issues were loaded with shame, guilt, hopelessness, judgement and self doubt.
A good coach helps me get better. A great coach empowers me to do the work and
get free in areas I’m stuck. Alexandra is the rare coach who looks at me with total love
and approval for ALL OF ME. From that place I’m deeply seen, and effortlessly inspired to be my very, very, best, excellent self.
I came to Alexandra with many questions about how to share my work with the world and she was a bevy of fresh ideas. She has a way of instilling confidence with her demeanor, and an open, affirmative presence that makes it easy to confide in her, even with things that may feel embarrassing to share! Perpetually upbeat Alexandra is a delight and at the same time she is serious about getting results, asking insightful questions that supported me in finding my own solutions!
Alexandra was not only an informed and knowledgeable business coach, she was a team player. I felt partnered with her regarding problem solving and finding business strategies that work for my particular business and, perhaps more important, Alexandra supported me in cultivating the right attitudes for success.
I greatly appreciate Alexandra and highly recommend her to anyone who is serious about growing their mind AND their business!
Founder of The Reality Formula
Alexandra is excellent at listening. She coached my partner and I, and we both felt seen and heard. She has the ability to tune in to the essence of the issue (and turn down the volume on the problem). She teased out the deeper issues and expressed them in a way that allowed us to be open to receiving guidance on how to move forward. She gave us both one thing to work on so as not to overwhelm us.
Simple, Direct, and Solid is how I would describe her.
Can’t thank you enough Alexandra... you helped us see what we can do to invest in our relationship. We had no idea how much was possible and are so grateful for your guidance. After 32 years of marriage, we have rekindled our love affair and are happier than we have ever been. Our teenage boys thank us for working with you!